The wisdom that there is strength in numbers can very often refer to a party of two.

One person alone is capable of creating enough focus on a specific intention to achieve a desired outcome, whether it’s a resolution to a problem or perhaps something as simple as maintaining a calm mood when in an uncomfortable situation.  Enlist the assistance of another trusted and like-minded individual, and the combined effort may not only produce amazing results but provide the unique satisfaction of a shared accomplishment.

We may have many acquaintances, but it seems that there are a mere handful of individuals that we meet, or have known for years, who offer the depth and ‘like-energy’ required to experience a genuine connection between souls.  Those are the beings with whom you feel that instant spark, that sense of ‘knowing’ that you recognize immediately.   Shared energy takes on its own unique properties and often can become powerful enough to do things you may not have found possible to achieve on your own.

My cousin Candace is one of those genuine souls.  We arrived on the planet in the same year, and although we were raised over 600 miles apart in our respective immediate families, we possess a potent connection that has enabled us to manifest many inner desires.

Candace is one of few members in our large extended family who immediately recognized the truth of some secrets that I revealed.  These secrets were some of  the not-so-pretty truths that had been well hidden underneath all of the elephants roaming around in our living rooms.  They had been lurking within the carefully constructed walls of our dynasty for decades.

As a threat to the empire, I was treated as such.  Candace offered strength and comfort throughout the many years that followed in the aftermath of my disclosure.  She’s been the champion of my voice, she has applauded every victory, consoled me in times of despair, defended my honor with courage, and helped to heal my deepest wounds.  In the process we have crumbled a few of the walls surrounding the powerful empire that remains our heritage.

When one or both of us spend time among family members who still choose to remain enclosed within unhealthy realms, Candace and I are ultimately connected in spiritual strength and positive energy.  This ’soul sister’ of mine has truly put the fun back in the term dysfunction.

Comments and behavior that continue to thrive within the dynasty walls used to have such a maddening effect.  Accusing remarks and mannerisms that once caused so much pain and anger are powerless and now rather amusing.  Out of respect, as well as being mindful of our loved one’s comfort level, Candace and I contain our laughter within.  I can feel her beaming presence within me, whether she’s standing right next to me or a thousand miles away.  It’s the best private joke two people could share.

For those of you with similar struggles and like-minded desires to heal family heartache,  I offer you the courage and comradery of a warrior spirit as you venture forth in your expansion.  Candace and I have often asked the question, “what were we thinking?!”  The answer is that anything is possible when we’re together.

Tags: dysfunctional family, friendship, warrior spirit